The moment you meet a lover, you begin learning and imitating some of their characteristics. It is also possible to begin adapting to their likes and dislikes. However there is a need to provide even in a long-term relationship you remain you. As much as you begin sharing your likes and dislikes it is essential to have a separate identity. Without that you may end up creating a different you from the old person before you met your lover. If you are not sure whether that is what is happening to you, find out by reading these points.
One of the signs that you are losing your identity is when everything you do is about we and nothing me. Many people are comfortable talking about themselves yet there is a group of people who can say anything else except the word me. If you are constantly stating about we and have nothing at all about me, that could be a sign that you are lost in your relationship.
You will also know that you are losing your identity when you begin tolerating things that you would not stand before. Things you would not have before meeting your partner. You also need to find out whether you are shifting your morals from you could not stand to being able to tolerate now. You may think that is ok to choose to be like the other person but remember that you should never tolerate anything that is morally wrong. Whatever happen and however much you are drawn to the other person choose to keep what is right.
Another sign that your relationship is making you lose your identity when the stuff for your partner is more important than yours. If you move in together, find out whether you have also brought in some stuff that you used to own alone. If you find that you have not brought in any, then it means you are looking at your stuff as less important. It is also important to find out whether you are just agreeing to everything automatically. You cannot find people who agree to each other automatically under normal circumstances.
You can also understand when you are not holding to your identity when you know there is no me time as far as you are concerned. Even people who think that they are an extra extrovert, need some time for themselves. If you feel you do not need such a time, you may be moving towards losing yourself t your relationship. It is important o make sure that you can have some time for yourself. That is the only way to make sure you remain yourself.